Triumphant Tuesday: Rejoicing in the Blessings From Loss
By Bonnie McConaughy
This story starts back in May of 2015 when my brother and I took a trip from Indiana to California to visit with family and friends. During that visit, I set up a time to spend with my Aunt. I was staying in town but needed a ride to get to her house. Lucky for me, my Uncle was the one who picked me up to drive me to their house. We had wonderful conversations in the car on the way there and also as he drove me back to where I was staying. It was really great to be able to connect with him one-on-one for the first time in a long time!
A couple of months later, in July, I got my financial aid refund and got a lot more money than I thought I would. With receiving extra funds, I thought it would be a nice gift to send my parents to California to visit with family and friends, as they have not been in a few years due to health and financial issues. My Mom was incredibly happy to have the opportunity to go see her family and friends that she hadn’t seen in a while and booked a trip for later that month. That extra money was a huge blessing, we didn’t even realize how much of a blessing at the time! I was so happy that my Mom was finally able to see her mother, my Grandma, and everyone else she hadn’t seen in a few years.
Then in October, we received an unexpected phone call with horrible news…. My uncle had passed away suddenly. He was only 61. He had been dealing with a lot of health issues that he was unable to get the treatment he needed to improve his health, but it was still a shock. He was so alive and full of life when I visited with him in May! Needless to say, the news hit me like a ton of bricks and the grief was unlike anything I had ever felt before. He had always been like a father figure to my siblings and I, so supportive and caring to all of us. It just didn’t seem fair that he was gone.
Even in the midst of that tragedy, we were all feeling very thankful to have had the chance to visit and spend time with him just a few short months before his passing, and for that, we are forever grateful. My Uncle and I were even connecting via text message leading up to his death, which is something I had never done with him before. He told me how proud he was of me and was encouraging me to pursue my new blog and business venture. Losing him fueled me to push my blog and business even harder, because I was discovering that life was too short to waste time.
The other huge blessing surrounding his death was that he wasn’t in pain anymore. He had been miserable for two or three years prior to his passing and that was due to him not being able to receive the treatments he so desperately needed, as mentioned above. There was definitely some comfort for all of us, knowing that he was no longer suffering in pain. That made loosing him slightly easier to bear.
Even in the midst of that tragedy, we were all feeling very thankful to have had the chance to visit and spend time with him just a few short months before his passing, and for that, we are forever grateful.
There could have been even more anger and grief, if we all hadn’t had a chance to visit him not long before he passed away. I had a hard time accepting him being gone, but I found comfort and thankfulness that we had our time together, to bond, before it all happened. This was the greatest blessing of all.
Through my Uncle’s death, I was able to turn that tragedy in my life to triumph, being triumphant over the grief and being able to take control of my own life. Not only was I able to make better lifestyle choices and the decision to live life fully, but my entire family was too! We miss him dearly and we are eternally grateful for the gifts he left us that we will be able to carry with us for the rest of our lives, as we move forward in good health and happiness.
Bonnie McConaughy is the owner and founder of Inspire the Best You http://www.inspirethebestyou.com where she writes about weight loss, healthy living, self-love, and personal growth. If you are interested in those topics, stop by and read her blog! She is also a freelance and ghostwriter at http://www.bmcconaughy.weebly.com.